Some interesting reading...

In a past life, I wrote a singles column for a going out guide in Monmouth County. Recently, I came across some of my articles. It's amazing how my perspective has changed since then on the dating scene. Of course, my view is now skewed, as I am married. Nonetheless, I want to share my perspective with any single women reading this blog now. Married women know something about dating. It's how we ended up married, after all.


Advice for single girls from a married woman


1) Live your life as much as you want. Don’t worry about when you meet someone or try to put yourself on a schedule for when you expect to get married. It’s going to happen when you least expect it
2) This is very important: what you think you need and what you actually need are very different things. My husband is nothing like I expected the person I married would be like.
3) Date. A lot. I dated tons in my 20’s because I never wanted to look back and say “I wish”. Plus, it was fun! I only took a handful of my relationships seriously.
4) Focus on your career and find your happiness within yourself. Work hard and be good at what you do, whatever that may be.
5) Get a hobby. Nothing is sadder than a single girl who thinks that life begins when they are in a relationship. Read, go to a museum, take a cooking class, or join the gym. Do something that helps you think about you and not about the opposite sex.
6) Weed out the friends who care about you and not just about the fact that you are single, and hence available to go out with them to troll the bars. These people will only cause drama later on for you and are definitely not worth it. Better to have a few close friends than several shitty ones who would stab you in the back without thinking twice.
7) Set goals for yourself that have nothing to do with getting married: travel, go back to school, learn another language. No matter what, you will find yourself more confident in yourself and your abilities, which is way sexier than being a date who has nothing to say.
8) Laugh. Laughter can get you through the loneliest days and can make the good days that much sweeter.